Oh, and it’s never ‘her fault”. I do not need you any more, I understand how you came about and now in the present I let you go. But we understood nobody could start the journey, but us. Slowly. Anxiety is my body’s way of responding to stress. I've wished her free of the suffering I've caused her and have had thoughts of ending my life with the (mistaken) intention of saving my family more pain. My wife’s anxiety was my fault. I’m dog tired of not living, of not shining, of not using my talents to their full. My name is Johnny, I'm 25 years old and I can't seem to get over my major trust issue. I will be passing this one on to many! I feel so much better than I did a couple months ago but I still have every negative thought running through my mind. I hope you realize that happiness is NOT a choice and that is one of the most irresponsible and small minded things to say to someone who is suffering with anxiety and depression. I began working less and taking more time for myself. I am nasty (verbally) to the people I care about. Having a job that lets me express myself creatively is rewarding and being able to manage my own workload when my anxiety does appear is something that’s integral to my well-being. Ha……… the Internet. Overweight hates life doctors medicines etc. I was only 19 and 20 ant the time. Barry, I sympathize with you. If it goes unchecked for too long though, it may just strangle your marriage with fear, doubt, and isolation. Anxiety permeates everything. That in itself is inspiring and it WILL inspire someone else to begin the process themselves. Eventually you will heal and let go. I think trying to manage panic attacks without xanax is really hard, but it’s doable. Last night she said "I am depression. I sought help many times in the past but nothing has worked. It zaps your positive self-image with ugly words (You’re unattractive. It’s as if your very core is broken. These problems can manifest themselves in withdrawing from communication, wallowing in self-pity, and even trying to convince a spouse that you’re beyond help. This my first month receiving SS retirement. As you can see I am really at a cross roads with many issues. P.S. I don’t know what to do. My wife and I communicate with each other about everything, nothing is off limits or held back. Your passive aggressive comment wasn’t necessary and undermines what good this article has presented. Years later , I have a wife who has ptsd, chronic depression, a business and two kids under two… I am sleepless, exhausted, but happy with my blessings. When the panic button is flipped, reason goes right out the window. While my version of anxiety included panic, insomnia, and phobias, hers included chronic depression. This lack of stability and predictability can be exhausting for a spouse, and coupled with some of the other problems caused by anxiety disorders (perceived threats, lack of social interaction, difficulty finding and keeping a job, irrational fear, excessive worrying, etc. For example, my wife constantly asks for my advise then automatically shoots it down. Please seek a medical professional. My wife has struggled with anxiety since before we got married, although I failed to notice exactly what it was until the last year and a half or so. It was like I was in a dark tunnel with no way out and I was losing oxygen. I throw temper tantrums. Anxiety disorders are the most common form of mental illness, affecting some 40 million adults in the US alone, and yet they remain widely untreated. Take a class in breathing/yoga and become aware how to release fear=anxiety through breathing/stretching. You can’t really manage major depressive disorder. 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